婚姻諮詢的重要

自從有了宣璦以後, 才發現自己真得有很多的不足. 我就曾詢問我之前的牧師, 怎麼辦? 因為我覺得我當不好, 一個媽. 以前曾想過自己當媽的畫面, 但是做夢歸做, 現實生活真得跟做夢差很多. 當時我之前的牧師告訴我, 如果你覺得有任何人, 他和自己的兒女的相處方式, 是你想擁有的, 就跟這個人做朋友. 學習他們的父母之道. 當這個之前的牧師跟我說這番話時, 我想到的是我現有的牧師. 他的女兒, 正值青春期. 還會坐在爸爸腿上, 雙手環抱著他爸爸, 像個小女孩一樣的跟爸爸說話. 好羨慕喔, 我好希望宣璦長大時, 在爸爸身旁永遠還是個小女孩.

其實很多人看我的婚姻, 覺得我們很相愛, 也很美滿. 我必須承認, 幾個月前, 我們為了應付宣璦, 常常有爭執. 其實也都是一些小事, 每次一有爭執, 牧師師母就很會挑時間的打電話來. 後來David 就跟牧師師母說, 我們需要婚姻諮詢.

我和David結婚5-6年了. 自從有了宣璦, 我們一點彼此的時間都沒了. 以前婚前也沒做婚前諮詢, 老覺得白人很奇怪, 為甚麼還要做婚前諮詢. 現在才 知道婚前諮詢 的好處 .

我們現在每周 , 都要跟牧師師母作婚前諮詢. 因為我們婚前根本沒做過. 牧師師師母還教我們如何教養宣璦, 還有如何繼續約會. 不要有了小孩後, 就忘記丈夫妻子應該有的浪漫. 我必須承認, 真得是蠻深的 一門學問. 不過我很感謝神的恩典, 因為我有我的牧師師母, 以他們的經驗, 來帶領我們 .

我也很感謝他們, 他們不曾因為我們偶爾的幼稚, 而來貶低我們. 只有不斷的提醒我們 , 我們是相愛的兩個不同背景的人. 有爭執的關係是正常的, 爭執是好的也是健康的. 只是必須學習認識彼此的成長背景, 還有知道神對我們的心意.

這幾個月來我很感謝神 因為我曾經看著我的牧師 我很羨慕他和他女兒的關係 神就把這個牧師賜給我們 來教導我和David 牧師師母也不斷的 以他們失敗的經驗及他們目前還在面臨的互相學習的挑戰來 鼓勵我們. 真得讓我覺得自己並不失敗, 這一切的挑戰都只是一個過程. 神定意要讓我學會這些功課, 讓我和David成為何神心意的父母與伴侶 .

我以前覺得作婚姻諮詢好像蠻丟臉的, 我現在不得不鼓勵大家. 能有一對有經驗的夫婦, 以他們的成功與失敗來當我的借鏡, 真得是我的榮幸. 免去很多的冤枉路. 真得好感謝神.

我們上一堂課才學習彼此的文化背景, 真得是相似又差好多. 只是我們不是要活在加拿大的文化還是台灣的文化, 而是要活在神國的文化裡. 上上一週牧師 師母還要求David要帶我去逛性感內衣商店. 哈,哈,哈.. 之前還被規定每星期都要有兩個人的約會時, 約會時不準談到小孩. 等等的... 有人想聽在分享囉...

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6.26.9 結婚紀念日

6.26.9 結婚紀念日當天特地為小宣璦穿上美美的粉紅色禮服.

當天一早,  我還在睡覺時, David就和宣璦去買了一個超好吃的蛋糕( 芒果 ＋覆盆子口味). 其實我也沒甚麼奢求,  畢竟上帝已經把最適合我的老公.  最大的祝福  (宣璦)  交給我了.  我真的很蒙福.  

結婚五週年,  我只想把我的感恩.  獻給愛我的上帝... 謝謝祢所賜的一切.

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一千八百多個日子.....

今天是我們結婚的五周年紀念日, 一千八百多個日子, 就像轉眼的瞬間, 真的過的好快.

看到麥克傑克森的新聞 , 上周又 招逢David在台灣的阿姨過逝的消息, (上個月我們才去看她的). 人生真的是消縱即逝, 真的要好好珍惜. 因為我們只活這一次....

感謝神 所賜給我的一切, 我深覺得我所擁有的一切是我不配得的. 但又因祢名我又配得祢所賞賜的所有....

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SEX SEX SEX!!

Last Night, in our couple's night, we discuss about SEX.
For my culture, it's very hard for me to open up and talk to other people about sex. I still think sex is very private topic.

Each one of us, our family education us about sex in different ways. Other people's family discuss this topic with them since they were very young. And my family never discuss this topic. Also Understanding our mate's needs and sacrificially acting to meet them is essential to a mutually rewarding sex life in marriage. We have lots question to answer, I think it helps me to understand my mate even better now.

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My Computer Desktop Photo

I figure out, if I want to be a Proverbs 31 woman, I need to have a proverbs 31 husband.
He is my Proverbs 31 husband.
^_^

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BBQ open for business!!

Tonight is our couple's nite. the meeting was at our place. We have our BBQ out for the first time in this year!! Oh! YA!!
Nice work, David. ^_^ (I am so happy that I don't need to cook. David just do all the work... cooking.. cleaning..... ha ha ha!!love BBQ nights!!) heehee, we have our couple's night for a year now(maybe longer), we met every week. I am so glad I have good couple's friends. We study on some marriage book together (Now we are in our 3rd book.), share about our marriage and pray for each other. Life is wonderful when you have good friend to share with you!!

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I can write a book

Since my friend Maggie just got married last month. She would call me all the time, and asked me all differernt type of question. How to do this and how to do that. Then she told me that I can write a book in Chinese and publish in Taiwan. She will find a publisher for me. ( ha ha that sounds really funny. I know. But she is so serious.) Anyway, I will pray about it. If God give me some insight.
Since I am doing design for a wrapping paper company and try to be a good wife at same time. I really wish I would have more time to write my blog. (I really wish I can have time to do my Christmas shopping, Christmas baking, and Christmas centerpiece.... etc ) . I would love to share with friends more about my life in Canada. (Hope..... next year) maybe wtire a book (ha ha ha)

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How my husband met me. (Written by David, 2002)

God is so good. He is so awesome. Follow Jesus & do His will & He will give you the desires of your heart. I have many desires but one of the most important ones is a perfect partner that God chooses for me. Every night for the past four months I would ask God, "I pray for my future wife Lord. I pray that she will fall more in love with you tomorrow than she did today." If I only knew this little secret many years ago I might of met Claire earlier. Wow, what can I say about her? She is so on fire for God that I think I might have troubles keeping up with her on this journey of ours to serve God's will.

I'll start from the day that I saw her in San Francisco back in April 1, 2002. I was there to visit my parents. They are missionaries at a church in SF. They took me to church on Sunday and then the service started. I was sitting on the right side of the church & then all of a sudden a super cute girl walks in late & sat down on the left side of the church. I thought to myself, "Nice work God!" and that was it. I didn't introduce myself after service because on a closer look Claire looked like she was about 18 years old. So I left it at that. I wasn't about to give the wrong impression on a young woman. The next week I went to church with my parents again but this time the pastor there wanted me to do a testimony of what I used to be like & what I am like now. I had no idea that Claire was there listening. After service she & her friend came up to me & started asking me questions. Her friend did almost all the talking and she barely said a word. I thought that she was really shy so I tried to say a few things to her. We didn't say much to each other but she did ask me to send her a copy of my testimony. I wrote down her e-mail address on my Palm Pilot & I said that I would e-mail her. Days went by & then I finally remembered to send the testimony to her. She replied the next day & what she sent me was very encouraging. I replied back & I guess that's when we started to keep in touch. We would always talk about what was going on with her walk with Jesus. It was so uplifting for me to see her become closer to God.

Around May things changed between us. Now we began to converse with each other through MSN Messenger. For those who aren't familiar with this, it is an online real time text-messaging program where a person can type what they want on their computer, hit send & the person on the other computer can instantly read what you just sent. We had great fun conversing about what we thought God was doing in our lives & how we were growing with Him in or lives as well. I always tried to keep things strictly on topic, which obviously cantered around Jesus. Then one day we got off topic when she told me that she was assembling a table with her friend that they bought from Ikea. She sounded like she was doing all the work. I was impressed until she told me that her friend did most of the work. But then I was more impressed with her because she knew how to delegate jobs without her doing any of it. This interested me. I started asking her general questions about herself & how she viewed things. I was getting more impressed with her. She started opening up to me about herself & I started to become partially interested in her.

During all this time I prayed for God's guidance in what to do. I asked Him to keep watch over what we would talk about & that we would glorify Him in all that we do.
Fast forward to July. Now I was definitely very interested in her although I dared not to let her know that I had strong feelings for her. I knew that she liked me but I kept my distance. I stayed away because of a list I made in January 2002. In this list I described to God what I was looking for in a woman. This list was about eight pages long on a Palm Pilot. It described her personality & characteristics & more. At the end of my list I put," & more...I don't want to limit God on how He wants to bless me." Everything on this list came true either by me noticing it in her or by her literally telling me what I had on the list.

Funny thing is that I never once looked at the list I made while I was courting her. Many of my friends knew that I was conversing with her & they all wanted me to tell her that I had very strong feelings for her. But, I knew that I had to stick it out no matter how much I wanted to tell her. The only thing that didn't come to pass on this list was "She will tell me" I wrote this down on the Palm. Then on Thursday morning at about 3am we were talking on the phone & I sensed that she wanted to say something. So I asked her if she had anything that she wanted to say to me & she did. She told me a story about a friend of hers. This person was her spiritual friend & adviser that she respected very much. She went on but I didn't hear what she said for I was praying to God & asking Him to make her say it. To say that she is the one for me. Then...She said it. A great sigh of relief could be heard in heaven for I am sure that the angels were all busting at the seams to hear if she would actually say it and she did! I was just beaming! I was so happy I heard those words come out of her mouth. God has answered my prayers! I was so full of happiness & joy & peace. Peace... I never felt such peace before about a girl in my entire life. I knew that she would make me happy, I knew that she would be there for me, I knew that she was the one God has given me to share my life with. I knew that I could love her.

Some say we are crazy. To the world we are. To God we aren't. He does not want us to conform to the patterns of this world. We are His children. He wants the best for His own. Dreams...or rather...prayers do come true. Believe and it will happen through the power of Jesus.

Claire & I have dedicated our lives to serving His will. We know that we have been chosen to do something great for the Kingdom of Heaven. Wouldn't you like to be chosen? You can you know...Just believe.

Read About How Claire met David

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Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.

Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.
最近我們有一個很好的朋友的婚姻出了問題
因為我們實在是太熟了 他對福音相信但不想接受
我有點傷心 因為我深信
神是樂意施恩賜福他的婚姻
神 祂渴望醫治我們人和人的關係
不過我也感謝神
至少他還願意和我們去教會
也願意我們為他禱告
反觀我們有另一個很好的朋友
第一次上教會 他就知道神在對他說話
就很快樂也像小孩一樣單純的接受神的邀請
也每個禮拜快快樂樂的上教會
人真得很不一樣
想到聖經裡在登山寶訓裡有一句經節說
清心的人有福了！因為他們必得見神。
Blessed are the pure in heart,
for they will see God.

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First Year Anniversary

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CLICK HERE FOR MORE PHOTOS Can you believe that we have been married for one year already? We thank God that we are learning so much about each other. We had a very blessed day today. We went to church and then out to dinner at Restraunt 62. After that we went to house church where our brothers and sisters threw us a surprise party. Praise God!

今天是我們結婚滿一周年的紀念日 日子過的很快 真得很感謝神過去一年的代領
祂教教導我如何學習做一個好妻子
我也非常感謝神 賜給我一個敬畏神 也愛我的老公
365天 每天睡醒就為我祝福禱告的好老公

如以弗所書5：20-33節所說
“凡事要奉我們主耶穌基督的名、常常感謝父　神。
又當存敬畏基督的心、彼此順服。
你們作妻子的、當順服自己的丈夫、如同順服主．
因為丈夫是妻子的頭、如同基督是教會的頭．他又是教會全體的救主。
教會怎樣順服基督、妻子也要怎樣凡事順服丈夫。
你們作丈夫的、要愛你們的妻子、正如基督愛教會、為教會捨己．
要用水藉著道、把教會洗淨、成為聖潔、
可以獻給自己、作個榮耀的教會、毫無玷污皺紋等類的病、乃是聖潔沒有瑕疵的。
丈夫也當照樣愛妻子、如同愛自己的身子．愛妻子、便是愛自己了。
從來沒有人恨惡自己的身子、總是保養顧惜、正像基督待教會一樣．
因我們是他身上的肢體。〔有古卷在此有就是他的骨他的肉〕
為這個緣故、人要離開父母、與妻子連合、二人成為一體。
這是極大的奧祕、但我是指著基督和教會說的。
然而你們各人都當愛妻子、如同愛自己一樣．妻子也當敬重他的丈夫。"

Ephesians 5:20-33
Giving praise at all times for all things in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, to God, even the Father;
Letting yourselves be ruled by one another in the fear of Christ.
Wives, be under the authority of your husbands, as of the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the church, being himself the saviour of the body.
And as the church is under Christ's authority, so let wives be under the rule of their husbands in all things.
Husbands, have love for your wives, even as Christ had love for the church, and gave himself for it;
So that he might make it holy, having made it clean with the washing of water by the word,
And might take it for himself, a church full of glory, not having one mark or fold or any such thing; but that it might be holy and complete.
Even so it is right for husbands to have love for their wives as for their bodies. He who has love for his wife has love for himself:
For no man ever had hate for his flesh; but he gives it food and takes care of it, even as Christ does for the church;
Because we are parts of his body.
For this cause will a man go away from his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.
This is a great secret: but my words are about Christ and the church.
But do you, everyone, have love for his wife, even as for himself; and let the wife see that she has respect for her husband.


我們仍有很多要學習的
但神的信實和教導是我們的根基
感謝神一直在改變我的生命
讓我可以承受更多祂為我預備的福分

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